An inventory of implements: 3 belt

A belt is merely a strip of leather. As such it can deliver a stroke of variable force, depending on how it is wielded, and depending too on the thickness of the leather. It’s certainly capable of imparting serious pain, but used more playfully it may merely sting.

And yet, it’s more than that, far more. To many submissive girls, a belt is an implement of almost mystic properties. Because it’s not merely an instrument in the hands of a dominant intent on making a forceful impression on her bottom. A belt has a very personal connection with its owner; it seems to be imbued with some part of his personality. After all, men choose belts according to their sartorial image of themselves. If you are the outdoor type who cultivates a macho image, you’d go for something heavy, maybe even with a large, Western-style buckle engraved with some fancy design. If you like motorbikes, your belt may be embossed with steel studs, which I imagine might make a girl quail somewhat. If you are more of a city sophisticate you’d want something slimmer, more elegant. Whatever you incline to, the belt is certain to display some of your character. It’s a lot more personal than a tawse or a cane could ever be.

So when he takes off his belt to her, the submissive feels this is a more intimate kind of beating, that he is employing something of himself in imparting pain to her bottom. But there’s still more to it than that. To spank her with his belt, he must first remove it. Some girls experience a special frisson from that little swishing sound as the belt slithers off, often accompanied by a slight metallic clink as the buckle is released.

I’ve heard of doms who use the buckle itself to strike the bare bottom. I can’t say I’d ever do that. You’d be likely to draw blood, and that’s a hard limit with me. But there are some choices to be made in exactly how the belt is wielded. First, do you use it long or short? Do you swing wide and let the whole length come into play? Or do you wind it round your hand a couple of times, reducing the length, perhaps sacrificing a little potential force but gaining in accuracy? In my opinion accuracy counts for a lot in spanking. You want to create a nice pattern, not a mishmash of strokes going every which way. And it’s not just a matter of aesthetics. Landing your strokes within a narrow range ensures they have the maximum effect.

One way to guarantee extra power is to double the belt. This will deliver a heavier downstroke and a lot more force to the target, and is highly recommended if you want to make a really forceful impression, and marks that last.

One more thing. Belts have other uses to the inventive dominant mind. In the first place, you can tie a girl up. It’s not quite so effective used on the hands, but looping the belt around her ankles and then doing up the buckle is s very reliable way to bind her feet. And a belt is also a highly effective makeshift collar and leash, wound round the neck and pulled through the buckle.

Just be sure while you are doing all this that your trousers don’t fall down. A sniggering sub is an affront to domly dignity.

Hard limits

We were talking about hard limits. She told me a few that she had. Mostly, they were unexceptionable; I would have no problem respecting them. If something would distress her, I wouldn’t do it. It’s no pleasure to me to see her upset. I want to make her do things she wants to do, even if she thinks perhaps she ought not to do them (too dirty, not what nice girls do), or even if she thinks she really doesn’t want to, but finds out in fact that she does after all (all sorts of deviousness go on in the submissive mind!).

Of course a little resistance now and then only adds to the dom’s pleasure in enforcing his wishes. But you have to be careful to find out the true nature of the resistance. Once thing she said was a hard limit because it involved some humiliation. When I probed it turned out that what was troubling her was her vanity. She thought that when performing that act she wouldn’t look elegant. I’ll look ugly, she said. So, I replied, it’s vanity that makes you resist. Yes, she said, but girls are that way, aren’t they? I told her I didn’t think vanity was a good reason for not following instructions. But I’ll be upset if I have to do something that makes me look awkward and silly, she said.

It seems to me that sometimes you have to insist, have to break through the reluctance, because pride and modesty and vanity are all very well, but what the dom wants is that she gives him everything, holds nothing back. If she’s always glancing in the mirror when you are working on her, she’s not focused on pleasing you. And that needs to be dealt with.

I think I can tell if she’s really upset or whether she’s just trying it on. And I’m not easily discouraged. But after this conversation had gone on a little while, she said that perhaps she was a very bad submissive and that I would get bored or weary with her if she didn’t simply submit. I’ve heard things like this from submissives before. They often lack confidence (which is why they try and hold back). They don’t think they are good enough for their dom.

I don’t allow that sort of thinking. My response is, I have chosen you. How dare you think I would choose someone who was unworthy! That’s a slight on my judgment as a dom. If she lacks confidence, it’s part of the dom’s job to instil it, make her feel that she is the best. Sometimes you hear of doms who insult their submissives, calling them useless pieces of shit, etc, etc. I would never ever do that. I want her to feel that she is supremely valuable to me.